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Right now, you’re on an amazing journey. You may not even realize it yet, but every second of every day is an opportunity for adventure — not in the traditional sense, such as exploring a new place, or searching for your dream home. It’s an adventure of self-discovery, and honing in on what makes you your own person. Living authentically and honestly sounds simple, but the pressures of life, change, and hardship convinces many of us that in order to survive, we need to change the way we are perceived by other people. We are constantly being bombarded with messages of how we “should” be, the kind of relationships we “should” have, how we “should” live life, and the things that we “should” care about. This has become especially true with social media, where it’s an almost 24/7 news feed of others’ idealized lives. In the hustle and bustle, we sometimes lose sight of who we truly are at our core. The core identity from where all of our values, relationships, and goals stem from — that “attractive character” within us — sometimes struggles to radiate that same light it once had. Knowing who you are and what motivates you is a skill; it requires digging deeply into your past, sometimes even your childhood, and questioning the things that you truly value as you progress throughout life. Start by asking yourself these questions:
  • “What does your perfect future look like?”
  • “Would your younger self be proud of where you are, and where you’re going?”
  • “Are the relationships you have serving you, lifting you up, and contributing to your happiness?”
While not easy, embarking on a journey to discover your true self is a transformative experience that leads to personal growth and fulfillment. If you’ve gotten this far, I guarantee you that you’ve already taken the first courageous step towards living authentically. In this blog post, we’ll explore the concept of the attractive character, delve into the importance of authenticity, and provide actionable tips to help you uncover your unique identity and unleash your inner charisma.

What is the attractive character?

The attractive character is the essence of who you are at your core—the authentic self that radiates confidence, charisma, and magnetism. It’s the embodiment of your values, passions, strengths, and quirks that make you irresistibly captivating. The attractive character is not about superficial attractiveness or trying to conform to societal standards of beauty or success. Instead, the idea is about embracing one’s true self, quirks, imperfections, and all, and expressing it authentically in the world. All the things that make you your own person are the ingredients that create this image. When someone fully embodies their attractive character, they exude authenticity, confidence, and passion in everything they do. They are comfortable in their own skin, unafraid to be vulnerable, and genuinely connect with others on a human level. People have an almost sixth sense when it comes to the ability to recognize and identify authenticity. When we embrace our complete self, we exercise honesty and encourage others to do the same.

The Three Kinds of Attractive Characters

While the concept of the attractive character is rooted in authenticity and individuality, there are various archetypes or personas that people may embody based on their unique traits, habits, values, and strengths. Just as no two people are completely alike, the same goes for their innermost core identities. These archetypes represent different aspects of the human experience and can manifest in diverse ways. While there are theoretically many types of attractive characters, I’ve singled out three for the purposes of this blog post. The different kinds of attractive characters are:

The Leader

The Leader represents a clear vision, exceptional leadership qualities, and an innate ability to inspire others to follow their shared purpose or cause. The Leader inspires others to live life outside of the comfort zone, focus on a shared vision, and create a difference in the world. They lead the way on a path of innovation and positive impact.

The Adventurer

Adventurers are trailblazers and innovators. They think outside of the box, and challenge the status quo. They recognize the opportunity hidden in the unknown, and do not shy away from risk, and rarely feel uncomfortable in new, unfamiliar situations. An Adventurer embraces the world and seeks new experiences; their highest aspiration in life is to gain a better understanding of the world itself, and the joy of discovery drives them in everything they do. They are the kind of person to take a solo trip, go out on their own, or start their own business as an independent entrepreneur.

The Reluctant Hero

Reluctant Heroes are passionate advocates driven by a deep sense of purpose and commitment to social justice and equality. The “reluctant” here doesn’t necessarily mean unwilling, but rather, a Reluctant Hero will try every other avenue to mediate conflict before allowing their unmatched skill in cultivating change to shine. They speak out against injustice, advocate for marginalized communities, and work tirelessly to create positive change in the world. They take a genuine interest in the lives of others they feel compelled to advocate for, and spend much of their time figuring out how to best serve their communities.

Developing Your Attractive Character

Now comes the moment where we put our knowledge into action, and embark on our journey of creating our attractive character. I say “creating,” but really we are just directing our focus to bring out the core qualities from within us that was already there to begin with! The process is simple, but requires us to listen to, reflect on, and accept ourselves and our feelings, no matter how difficult it may be.

1. Reflect on Your Values and Passions

  • Take time to reflect on what truly matters to you and brings you joy.
  • Identify your core values, interests, and passions that resonate with your soul and ignite your enthusiasm.
  • Don’t be afraid to go back to childhood memories, specifically ones where you envisioned your ideal career, dream, or goal in life. Our earliest aspirations tell us so much about ourselves in ways we don’t realize influence us in the present.

2. Embrace Your Uniqueness

  • Celebrate your individuality and embrace the qualities that make you distinct.
  • Embrace your quirks, strengths, and imperfections, as they are what make you authentically you.
  • Remind yourself that no two people are exactly the same, and that you bring unique skills, perspectives, and solutions to every situation you encounter.

3. Explore New Experiences

  • Step outside of your comfort zone and explore new experiences that challenge you to grow and expand your horizons.
  • Embrace curiosity and openness to discover hidden facets of yourself.
  • Consider doing things on your own, such as planning a solo getaway, going to the movies by yourself, or starting a new business venture.

4. Live Your Truth

  • Be unapologetically true to yourself and live in alignment with your values and beliefs. When you honor your authenticity, you inspire others to do the same.


Discovering your attractive character sometimes feels like reconnecting with an old friend, one that you feel you’ve known your whole life. It’s so easy to forget about where we came from when we’re so laser focused on where we are going. Embrace the journey, embrace your truth, and watch as your attractive character shines brightly for all to see.

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